Take a Chance on Life, Reach Out :-)

I am happy, and I am content.

That had to be a choice for me, as four years ago I lost the love of my life and my best friend; somebody who was the absolute world to me. We met when I was 17 and we had 41 great years together. We laughed, we laughed some more, we cried. We had good times and dreadfully difficult times, but we were always together.

When he died, all I wanted to do was die also, but after a couple of years I had to make a choice. Do I just survive waiting to die or do I choose to live? I chose to live and I am so grateful I did but it wasn’t always easy.

When he was dying, he told me he wanted me to go on, and he told his brother he wanted me to get on with my life and meet somebody if possible, and this I kept foremost in my thinking. I’m very lucky in that I have met someone, but even in that, the conflict, the emotional turmoil, and the feeling of guilt at times could’ve derailed me, but I chose to keep going. I chose to reach out and open my heart again because I knew that’s what he would want, and it was what I wanted also.

It’s because of the man I lost that I have become who I am, and each minute of every day because I’ve opened my heart to life, he is very much still with me. I still see his smiley eyes and I feel him in my heart.

Don’t close yourself off. If you loved before you can love again, it’s different and it does not touch the part of you that was someone else’s - you never forget. So take a chance on life.

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